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Spoiler alert: Do not read on if you haven’t watched ‘Avengers: Endgame’.
BIG Spoilers. You’ve been warned.
These last few weeks, everyone has been going crazy for Avengers: Endgame. Seriously, have you seen the adverts and merchandise floating about town?
I’m not complaining since I’m definitely one of them. What can I say, I’m a Marvel Zombie Haha. I squealed a little at the scene when The Wasp, Valkyrie, Okoye and the A-Force came together to fight Thanos’ army. Yay girl power!
At the risk of my own life (pls don’t hurt me), I’m going to share some of my thoughts on the movie along with what is a crowning moment for women all over.
I love that despite the big three driving the plot of the movie forward, most of it cannot be achieved without the women of Avengers standing next to them – in some cases (I’m looking at you, Black Widow!) leading the pack.
More than the big fights, and large scale battles, I loved the quieter character moments. The movie is filled with great moments that showcased every single aspect of being a modern woman and I loved every second of it.
This gives me joy. Growing up, I’ve been told that I can’t do this or that because I’m a girl. If I want to be a mother, I cannot have my career. I can’t be a leader, only a subdivision head. I am a woman, thus, I can’t.
Some scenes mean more to me precisely because they show the younger generation that women can be leaders, mothers, sisters and everything they want without compromising themselves. Some of the strongest relationships in the movie are about that bond. Now we can have our cakes and eat it too.
I’m glad that there are plenty of scenes that depict strong, independent women embracing the duality of themselves, and at points in time, better than their male counterparts. But this is not an article to bash men. This is a celebration of women empowerment!
Take for example, Natasha Romanoff aka the Black Widow.
Black Widow Stepping Up To The Plate
While the big three were wallowing in pity, fear and past mistakes, Natasha stepped up, effectively becoming the leader of the remaining factions of Avengers and S.H.I.E.L.D. She didn’t let her failures cripple her as Thor did, nor did she stop being a hero like Tony Stark. She simply did her job, pushing past her guilt and pain.
For me, one of the most heartbreaking scenes of the movie appears when she sacrificed herself to help Hawkeye, reasoning that this was what she was meant to do. Her life for Hawkeye’s chance to meet his family again.
She stepped up, left her personal crisis aside for the greater good and added depth what was a supporting character in the movie. This coming from a brainwashed assassin that did more than her fair share of heinous acts who was repeatedly told to not have any personal or familial ties her masters agreed for her to have.
Makes me very glad for her upcoming movie truth be told. I wonder if it’s going to be a prequel or an alternate dimension Natasha… hmmm…
Mother Knows Best, and Frigga Knows All
Remember this scene where Frigga healed Thor’s anguish and self-loathing? It was a tender moment for Thor as he regains his self-worth and a great pivotal moment for the character.
Mother knows best, and with the Asgardian Queen Mother, she does know best. The Asgardian Queen Mother, having grown up under the tutelage of witches, knows exactly what is wrong with her son with just a look.
She saw him hurting after he failed to save his mother, Asgard, friends and the world.
Supernatural skills aside, isn’t that a skill most mothers have? They just know when we’re hurting and what it takes to help soothe our battered souls.
They heal, they nurture and they make the world just a little bit better than before. It’s always a great reminder that the mightiest of heroes too need the gentle support and ministrations of their mothers once in a while, see the salad comment.
Seriously Thor, eat a bowl of salad once in a while. The dad bod look may be “in”, but I have my moments of shallowness, and chiselled washboard abs do it for me so much more hehehe.
The Bond Between Sisters; Ever The Twain Shall Meet
Nebula, the blue-skinned alien woman has always had a… shall we say… literal murderous rivalry with her green-skinned sister, Gamora. Never hesitating to find ways to hurt or harm each other for the affections of Thanos, the two, at their introduction in 2014’s Guardian of the Galaxy seemed poised to end to each other at some point in time.
Both hated each other, Nebula more so than Gamora. Over the course of three films, an uneasy alliance rose and by the end of Guardians 2, both had reconciled their differences and a tentative bond emerged.
Their bonds as sisters are an interesting one. On one hand, they aren’t blood-related – Thanos did kidnap them from their original families to be raised together. On the other, the two have gone through something so traumatic that only they understand each other. They could have chosen to hate each other, or they could choose to heal together.
They chose the latter, and the movie is all the better for it.
No words necessary, by Endgame, Nebula’s immediate action to kill her past alternate self to save her sister is a culmination of what sisterhood could be. A selfless unconscious act that other movies have made saccharine and overwrought. It’s a bond of sisterhood that I can only hope if I ever have two daughters, they would have.
Pepper Potts, The Woman Behind The Iron Man
So they say, behind every successful man, stands a woman. But I say, why should a woman be standing behind the man when she is just as capable as the man?
Pepper Potts, soulmate of Tony Stark is a personal favourite from her early days in Iron Man.
From her early roles as Tony’s personal secretary to CEO running a multibillion-dollar tech company; her growth as a woman, from lover to wife and mother has been an inspiration. Here stands a woman at the pinnacle of success in every way imaginable – CEO, wife and mother.
Here stands a multifaceted, multitalented woman who understands her soulmate completely, and stands not in his way, but helps him unlock his full potential at every step of the way.
And when Tony Stark felt he couldn’t be Iron Man any more, she was there by his side, raising their little family. To some, they could argue that she moulds herself to whatever her man needs. I think that’s not exactly true.
Being a modern feminist does only mean one-upping men or denigrating them when they are down. It’s knowing when to support, and help them at their lowest.
And when they do rise up.
As she says,
“Tony, trying to get you to stop, had been one of the few failures of my entire life.”
She doesn’t stop him. Instead, she provides spiritual support to Tony in his darkest hour. When the world is at stake, she suits up as Rescue to join her husband, side by side.
She’s got him at every step of the way, and I think that their love for each other was the hallmark of the entire movie. Seriously, just look at the death scene between Tony and Pepper. I bawled like a baby. (omigawd the tears I tell you!)
So really, the storyline of Avengers: Endgame showcases not only the power of women but also what we can be. We are soft, yet strong. Sensitive, and confident. It’s a message I can take away and show to my children when they’re old enough to understand the movie beyond the bright lights and super theatrics.
It’s a fabulous message, and I couldn’t be any happier.